Here are some motivations to make your Monday more positive to set the tone for how your week will go, of which YOU have the power to create – make the best of any and all opportunities in your way (or create them) and celebrate any and all success!
“Visualize this thing that you want; see it, feel it, believe in it. Make it your mental blueprint and begin to build.” (Robert Collier)
“When you open yourself up and say, ‘I can do that. I can become successful. I can overcome this obstacle,’ that’s more powerful than anything in the world.” (Gerard Adams)
“There is not royal flower-strewn path to success. And if there is, I have not found it, for if I have accomplished anything in life, it is because I have been willing to work hard.” (Madam C.J. Walker)
Yesterday I wrote about challenging yourself to complete a goal, or perhaps start/stop a habit. To take this a step further, in order to complete these tasks, we need to have a motivator that will keep us inspired and in forward motion. But are you even aware of what your motivators are?
I find most people don’t. To explain, there are two basic types of motivational needs that we possess:
- Intrinsic Needs: these are motivations that come from within; they are needs that are innate and are personal drivers to work on and accomplish goals. No one has to tell you to do something as you will find the ways to get them done; some examples are that you will stay late if work at the office is not completed, or you will come in on your day off to help the team out. Another example is wanting to participate in decision making or a desire to help others.
- Extrinsic Needs: these are external factors that spur one on to take action and get an outside reward. Some examples include: working for the pay or benefits, or for a closer parking spot; they won’t stay late unless there is a monetary bonus or some other benefit such as coming late the next day.
Neither one of these is better or worse – what works for one won’t work for the other. But it is important to know how you are motivated in your work and personal tasks. Knowing this will then help you as far as starting and staying the course for whatever you set as your challenge goal (you did, right?). If an external reward will keep you going, then having a reward for the end will be the motivator for some, while another would just get satisfaction in their daily routine. I encourage you to sit and reflect to determine how you are motivated and what you will need to keep going; this might be help in the form of family or friend, having schedules or downloading an app that will keep you on track. Be sure to add small recognition and rewards as these are motivators for everyone.
Happy TFIG! We have now come to the end of the first work-week. My question for you is ‘How are you doing on the goals, intentions, or resolutions (yuck)?” This is a critical time as it is a proven fact that the majority of people stop working on theirs by the second week of January. That blows my mind when I think of the magnitude of that fact – a lot of people get excited to make-over themselves or their careers, often spending time thinking and planning, along with a lot of anticipation and hope, and then after trying for one week that’s all gone!
Why is this? To me, it’s either because they haven’t planned appropriately, they took on too much at one time, or it’s not a truly burning desire. Let’s look at each of these individually (in case you are having the same problem):
- No appropriate planning – when most people have a desire or aim, they set a goal and then rush right into getting it accomplished. Without appropriate thought and planning you will be doomed to fail; in the Six Stages of Action Model (Prochaska, 1995), taking action is #4 – the most important step is the third, which is preparation; when you are totally prepared and planned for what you want to do, and have all the steps in place, taking action and sticking with it will seem easy which leads to the results you want
- Too much at once – if you’ve ever seen someone take too much food, and then not finish it, we often say that their ‘eyes are bigger than their stomach.’ This is what often happens with goals – you may see the big picture but imagine all the steps it will take to get there, which leads to feeling overwhelmed and in avoidance mode. When you are fully prepared, as I mentioned above, and start s-l-o-w-l-y, it will allow you to transition into a new routine easily; using the principle of Kaizen, starting with the smallest (and least threatening) step will allow your fear-center to relax and you will begin to develop good habits without even realizing.
- No burning desire – I’m sure you have goals that you really want but are they the ‘no-holds barred’ type? If the things you want to accomplish don’t excite you or get you to leap out of bed every day then you’ll lose interest in them quickly. Likewise, if what you want to accomplish has a negative attached to it, such as losing weight or stop procrastinating, it actually gets you to focus on that negative and your actions follow. The easiest way is to focus on the benefit you will get once you achieve your outcome, which is why you want it to begin with. Make your goal as compelling as you can so you will feel more passionate and motivated to get it done.
Take time this week to review how you’re doing on your goals and compare them to the list I’ve mentioned. It’s not too late to revamp, get more prepared and start the Kaizen way in order to make great things happen. I’m rooting for you!
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As we celebrate the first day of 2013, I hope that you are taking time to reflect back on your accomplishments over this past year. Recognizing goals and tasks you’ve achieved can help you to make the realization that you made up your mind and pushed through any fears that seem to be in your way from getting what you want. Often, we can get “stuck” and feel as if we have not made any significant changes in our lives so reflecting on what we have done, and the impact they had, can increase your motivation, confidence and willingness to keep going. You may want to get an empty jar or a pretty container and fill it with your accomplishments over this next year; I’m going to resolute to do better in this area.
Another idea is to set a word for the year, making it one that inspires you to keep going on goals and achieving betterments in your life. I have two that I am setting as my word(s) for the year: “Determination” and “Carpe Diem” (seize the day). I have always been determined to move forward and keep going, even when the going got rough (to coin a phrase); it reminds me of my doctoral process and how I resolved to finish even when I wanted to give up. I want to seize every day and make the most of them as I can; I recognize that the choice is mine to create the future I want.
I hope these two recommendations will get you started to begin this new year on a positive and directed note. I wish you much love, happiness, prosperity and success in 2013!