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Picking Up After a Loss (Lessons from the Football Field)

If you’re a sports fan, then you know by now that yesterday’s championships game produced two winners and two losers. My team, the Pittsburgh Steelers were, unfortunately, in the later category; the Green Bay Packers were as well. Hope were given and relied on in both ‘nations’ but, as they say, there can only be one on the winning side.

However, I don’t look at it quite this way, despite the scathing comments I’ve seen in the newsfeeds I’ve read this morning. Sure, there were mistakes made by some of our rookie players; sure, the play-calling could have been adapted and better; sure, there were some missed calls by the refs; sure, there could have been more fire in our guys. But, there are positives and lessons to be learned.

For one thing, we started off with a 4-5 record, with many writing this season off. On the positive side – we won  9 games in a row and made it to the Championship game; how many other teams can say that, lest the 4 on the ‘stage’ last night? Another positive is that we did make some good plays; our quarterback threw for 314 yards, becoming the 9th on the all-time passing touchdown list; we did sack Brady twice. But, unfortunately, there were not enough good plays to capitalize on. This loss has been really tough for Steeler Nation (I’ll throw in Packer fans, as well).

Business, and life, are like football games. You can have the best game plan, the best players, and not come out on the winning end. There may be challenges to deal with (can we say fire alarm?) but, in the end, it’s all about execution. It’s about firing up and motivating the team; it’s about adjusting and adapting to challenges; it’s about stepping up and owning your part in the plan. There are times that you will be outplayed and out-led.

So how do you deal effectively with a loss like this? Fortunately, we’re not on the big stage, like these teams were but the world is watching. The best is to take responsibility, especially as the leader, celebrate the wins, and vow to move on and do better for the next times. You do have to ‘lick your wounds’ but don’t stay there or you become a victim – be the hero in the story you tell and present.

Win or lose, I love my Steelers. I pray that they don’t let this get them down. Leadership has to evaluate and make adjustments, but that’s the beauty in loss – we all have the same ability to do the same. But, we do need to move on. We either can let failure keep us in the dark or we can move to the light. Which will you choose when you have a setback? I have no doubt that the Steelers will be back and up on the stage next year. I have no doubt you will be, too!

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Opportunities Are There If You Look for Them

Yesterday turned out to be a really good day, business-wise. I decided to return to a professional association meeting I used to attend a few years ago, where I was heavily involved, but stopped for several reasons. One of those was the timing of the meeting as they often have these early meetings where I have scheduled clients. But I decided to go back and see what they’ve been up to lately.


I am so glad I made that decision. Not only was I able to see contacts I haven’t seen in a couple years, so it was nice to reconnect, but I also made new contacts and connections that I look forward to. But one of the best aspects was the opportunities that were there to expand both my network and my business. I was able to secure two speaking engagements from that meeting, where I get to present my signature program of helping people to love their job again.

While the opportunity was there, it did take seeking it out and ‘grabbing’ them. Later that day, I secured another speaking engagement just from an opportunity of helping someone out who was referred to me by a friend (aren’t they grand?).  Opportunities are all around if we just look for them. How many times have you wanted to do something but you could not see anyway to achieve them? How many times have you thought that opportunities are for others but not you?

If so, you’re in the majority so take heart and know you are not alone. Seeing any opportunity that lies in front of you means knowing exactly what you do want, looking for them, and then taking action to make them a reality. Instead of seeing a black cloud, or a negative aspect of a situation, don’t go in with any expectation of a particular outcome; I knew the meeting agenda was focused on planning speakers for next year, but had no idea I would be accepted nor get voted in to speak twice. When I called the referred person, my intention was to help them and not the other way around (see how that works?).

If I had gone in with my own agenda, the situation may not have turned out as planned. So take off the dark glasses and open your eyes to all that is available to you. Step over any barriers you feel may be in your way and take quick action. Remember, the person you say hi to today may be your next opportunity – take a chance!

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