Taking Risks

I have found myself taking more risks these day, and in a good way. I have joined a group to create and grow a Face Book group; I’ve had a coaching group for a while now, but it hasn’t grown as quickly as I’d like so I’m looking to this group and program to jump-start it.

I just finished a 5-day Visibility Challenge, where I learned to create and share memes that represent my brand and information I share. This was really uplifting – and fun for my creative side. (here is one I did)

take a risk quote

And I just signed up – and did – my first Facebook Live 21 Day Challenge.  This one scares me the most, as I am not comfortable being on camera. I’ve dabbled with them but the outtakes of my ‘flubs’ are so funny. I did my first video and, while it was a a bit rough, I got through and posted it for the those in my world to see.  My goal is to like how I look and share more content.

The point is that I am taking more risks these day – what about you? Taking risks is …risky; it’s fearful and scary. Pushing past these fears and taking those risks, however, is what leads to growth and results. The more you do, the less those risks appear ‘real’ – they are imaginations in our mind, an anticipation that we don’t actually know will happen.

Challenging these maladaptive thoughts and taking some type of action is the way; I can tell you that I feel pretty proud right now that I’ve done that video. It wasn’t as scary as I thought and I look forward to doing more. If I hadn’t have done this challenge, I would still be sitting on the sidelines, feeling frustrated with myself. I’ve admired those that have done videos so I no longer want to be in that space – I’ve taken a risk and moved forward.

What about you? What scares you, but frustrates you at the same time? I challenge you to act on whatever it is and get ‘er done. You will be glad you did.

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Using Your Most Productive Time of Day

In order for you to accomplish those goals on your “To Do” list, you need to be focused and completing tasks on a daily basis.  But do you ever find yourself feeling unfocused or delaying those action steps?


The rationale may not be due to any fears surrounding your goals – it may be that you are not using your time appropriately.  Namely, that you are not using your most productive time of day.  This is the the time when you are feeling energized and are most clear in your outlook and mood.

We all have this productive time but may not be aware of it; maybe you are a morning person but then get sluggish towards the end of the day or, you could be the opposite in that you feel tired in the morning but become accomplished as the day goes on.  You could be, like me, an evening person where your ideas and energy come at night.

Whatever your productive time of day, it is important to know and use this to your advantage.  It will help you to get more done and to feel more accomplished.  You will get your body in a rhythm-cycle so that you retain your energy for the hardest, or the most important, tasks on your list. Using your most productive time of day will lead you to become more disciplined, focused and accomplished!

For one week, starting today, keep a time journal for all of your activities and your associated moods; document the time of day you wake up and how you feel, i.e. do you jump out of bed or do you keep hitting the snooze alarm.  Note when you feel more focused and energetic as you begin to perform your tasks, as well as how much you get accomplished, especially the tasks you feel are overwhelming or necessary but uninteresting.  Track your progress and watch your achievements grow!

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Changing Your Outlook on Fear

If you have, or are now, dealing with fears that are preventing you from moving ahead in your career or your business, you are not alone.


Dealing with fear and the reasons for them is a big part of my business.  You see, fear is really the underlying basis of procrastination and avoidance.  It is the root-cause of why most people never finish a task or a goal, why they can’t speak up at a meeting or market their business.  And, sadly, it is the underlying reason why relationships suffer from not making your needs known.

How you define fear can dictate your reactions to its meaning.  I recently ran across two definitions of fear that I think are important to share in the hopes that you might look deeper into your fears and decide to banish them once and for all:

Forget Everything And Run

Face Everything And Rise

With the first, you can go into flight mode and run away from what you want; however, you ultimately have to live with the results – not having what you desire and then living with your inaction’s and resulting frustrations.  OR, you can choose to face your fears and overcome them.  The more you do, the more long-lasting results you will see.

You need to decide which path you want to take- to face your fears or to allow them to control you.  Make the choice to overcome any fear you have; recognize that their power is from you, which means you can easily take it away.

Here are some steps you can take to rid yourself of those pesky fears that are holding you back:

This week, make your focus the quest to uncover the real reason for your fears; then, question their validity and what you think would be the worst outcome.  Rewrite those outcomes as a positive statement and monitor how you feel when you read them.  Vow to take one small action step on what is holding you back then ‘see’ how much you get accomplished.  Commit to building on these actions and monitor your progress until your goal is achieved.

If you need help gaining clarity on your business or career goals, or in ‘taming the demons’ that prevent your success,  why not get some help – stop the struggle and call today to get started! http://www.cyscoaching.com

Self-Assessment is the Key to Effective Career Management

businesswoman_silhouette_clipboard_800_wht_15028 “To thine own self be true.” No truer words could be said on the journey to successful career management.  It all starts with self-assessment – truly knowing who you are and what you are capable of doing.  Without this insight and knowledge, you will spend your life ‘flying the by the seat of your pants’ and getting by.  I have seen people go from job to job and through different careers because they can’t find the meaning and happiness they are seeking, and they aren’t sure why.  I have talked with many people who have been in a career and not feel fulfilled, and they are not sure why.

I believe it is because they have have not done a self-assessment to truly understand themselves and then see how the results  relates to their career.  Assessment involves knowing your strengths, weaknesses, skills abilities, interests, talents, and values.  It takes looking ‘hard’ at oneself in order to uncover the truths.  Doing so will help you identify career paths and goals.  It will also help you identify and understand what you want from both work, and non-work roles, and then get clearer on what skills and abilities you will bring to those roles.

Self-Assessment should consist of:
1, Values – these are abstract outcomes of what you want to attain or individual differences of what we want from work.  There are 6 values we all possess – theoretical, economic, aesthetic, religious, social, and political.  If you value economics highly, you will not be happy in a job that does not pay well.
2. Interests  – these are the likes and dislikes we attach to specific activities or objects and are expressions of what we like to do. These can come from a variety of factors, such as family life, social class, culture, or the physical environment.  Choosing a career that is compatible with your interests will lead to higher levels of involvement and satisfaction. There is nothing worse than being in a job that has become boring or routine so you want one that aligns with your interests.
3. Personality – these are the characteristics that distinguish you from others.  There are 5 personality factors: extroversion, agreeableness, conscientiousness, emotional stability, and openness to new experiences (Robbins & Judge, 2016).
4. Talents – these refer to aptitudes or capacities – or developed skills and proficiencies – you possess;  they also are reflective of what one can do if they received the proper training and development. These are vital to our career planning process as they can set constraints on our potential accomplishments and are necessary when making career decisions. Usually, these come easy to us.

There are a variety of ways for self-assessment.  Sit down with paper and pen and list them from above.  If you are stuck, you can ask others – family or friends- what they see in you as they relates to the four assessment areas.  You can also take some tests, such s the MMPI, the Keirsey Temperment Sorter, the DISC, the Vocational Preference Inventory, or The Bliss Inventory.  These tests are designed to help you understand your personality style and how it would best fit in with a career path and how you will fit in with that culture.

This assessment should be done throughout one’s lifetime.  Often, our interests and talents will change and we may become disillusioned by our current job.  In order to successfully manage a change, it is vital to know ourselves and why those changes occurred.  We may have grown in our thoughts and beliefs; understanding this growth will help n our preparation in the event that a career change is made, whether planned or unplanned.

If you’d like help with your career planning and managing your career more effectively, let’s talk – contact us today at http://www.cyscoaching.com to get started!

Freedom is Yours – If You Take it

As we are in a new day, week and month – and as we celebrate the birth of America – today’s theme is all about freedom. But I’m referring to freedom in our work. Sounds hokey? Well, freedom is the name of the game.


In your work, you have the option to look at your work either as a chain around your neck or as your contribution to the workplace. It all starts with your attitude and outlook; freedom comes in all forms:

  • the ability to own your work – take responsibility
  • the ability to perform your work in a self-empowering way
  • the ability to use your skills and talents to excite your passions
  • the ability to be involved and engaged in your work which increases your overall job satisfaction and happiness

Work freedom is not just a dream, but an obligation to yourself. It all starts in the mind and how you look at your work, then it means identifying the parts of the job that align with your skills and aptitudes – which do you need to make your job effective each day, which do you need to improve upon. Asking these will help you to psychologically identify with your work and raise your confidence and self-efficacy (the belief that you can), both of which leads to higher performance and, again, satisfaction.

Work won’t seem tedious and disengaging. By changing your outlook, you will be free to work in your way – freedom can be yours for the taking. As we celebrate our country’s ‘birth,’ take time today to think of how you will fight for your freedom. Also, don’t forget to be grateful for those who have fought – and continue to – fight for the freedom’s we have today. Happy 4th – enjoy your day!

If you’d like to have more freedom in your work, let’s talk! Contact us to begin: http://www.cyscoaching.com


On Being Hacked – Again

While I was up in Atlanta, working at a convention, I received an email from an SEO marketer. What I thought was a promotional message to buy their services, it actually was one that put my life – and business – in a tailspin.

Seems that while this company was doing their ‘research,’ they googled my business name and found that my site was being redirected to a pharmacy. I did some research on my own (I’ve become quite the detective) and called my hosting site, but they did not know what was going on. Thank the stars for having good networking contacts, as I called one who specializes in this area which, to my dismay, had verified that my website had been encrypted with codes to redirect; the other bad news was that the hacker was able to get the code to ‘jump’ to another site on the server, which was a website that had been developed (but never published).

Trying to remain calm during the time I was away was a challenge but I knew my contact knew ‘his stuff.’ The good news was that that my ‘pro’ was able to get the bad code off; the bad news was that this person, who he was able to determine came from Russia, was relentless and kept trying to access my sites. This continued for more days, even after I returned home.

I found myself becoming more upset and feeling demoralized – why was this person targeting me? I’ve not found any real answer – is there one? – but have heard: the site was vulnerable, the site got traffic (yeah!) to which they were making money, and they have nothing better to do, aka show their superiority and that ‘they can.’

The site is secure, for now at least. Here are a few lessons I learned from this that may help you:

  1. Pay Attention – be sure to check your brand, meaning do Google searches frequently to see if you come up. Check your website and traffic to ensure you’re still up and running safely
  2. Check passwords – these guys have machines that they can ‘ping’ vulnerability to a site. Not sure how my hosting service did not catch this. Change your passwords frequently and make them really hard to figure out
  3. Don’t assume all is safe, or that it can’t happen to you because you’re small – it can. These hackers are trying to make money but it’s at your expense so keep in awareness at all times
  4. Have good back-up systems and people – be sure to back up your data for the possibility of moving your info to a new site or for your own peace of mind. Knowing the information you created is safe and available helps to be calmer during this type of situation. Hire knowledgeable IT experts who can help you take back control of the situation; your hosting site is another resource to help
  5. Be prepared to start over – this happened to me 7 years ago, where I had to redo a new website. Not being so attached lately to my current one, if I have to start over it won’t devastate me. Actually, I had been toying with the idea of creating a new website with some new branding, which leads me to the next point…..
  6. Watch your thoughts and words, as you might get what you wish for – I recognized that I had been consciously saying my dislike for my website and certain other things in my business. I’ve recognized that the energy I was putting out may have led to this but I can also look that it was the catalyst to finally take the plunge. Funny how the ‘law’ works that way.

Bottom line, all will be ok with me and I’ll push through this. Hope these tips will save you some grief and frustration to protect your business and your personal information. They will try but not win!


Categories: career management

Using Meditation Practices to Start the Day Right

I hear from clients frequently how unhappy they are with their jobs – too much work, not enough time, conflict with their tasks or coworkers/boss, and the list goes on. If only thinking of problems on a day-to-day basis is your ‘theme,’ it won’t be long before you will feel more frustration, stress and unhappiness.

Overtime, with no change in this pattern of thinking, it will soon start to feel like ‘groundhog day’ – doing the same things over and over with no change (this is also the definition of insanity). Soon, predictions and generalizations occur for each day being the same. We don’t realize that our situations are not the same as before but are our outlook and belief.

But what if there was a way to start each day with fresh eyes, and a fresh perspective? And what if these led to a differing outcome and the ability to deal with whatever comes your way? Well, there is a way and it’s all within you, or your mind, to be specific.  Although not new, meditation is one of the more up-and-coming popular ways to decrease stress, regain focus and concentration, and give the ability to face each day recharged and refreshed.


From what I’ve learned, meditation is not about stopping one’s thoughts, it’s about living with them and not trying to do anything about them (control them). Creating a ritual each morning before you start your day, where you meditate, will provide you with a fresh outlook and a calm way of being. Meditation does take time to learn, as practice is involved, but just starting with a minute or two will give you calm and relieve any worries or anxieties that may arise. Here are three quick ways to  create a mediation ritual that will start your day off on a positive note:

  1. To begin, set a minute on your cellphone or an actual timer; doing so ‘preps’ you to know this is not going to be laborous or hard. Mindset sets the tone for success; by starting small, it allows the brain to calm and not reject the activity and you can see quick results, thereby motivating you to continue
  2. Use your visualization or find a focal point to look at – think of an object to focus on as this will redirect all thoughts to that one area, making it easier to calm the mind and keep the practice going. Another suggestion is to make a noise, such as a hum (‘ohm’ or ‘um’) to redirect thoughts; I’ve used ‘mmmooonneeey’ in the past
  3. Focus on your breathing, as this is the best way to get calm immediately; breathing deeply in the belly area will help to calm the stress chemicals released, leading to feeling calmer and more in control. The more you practice, the easier this will become, which will be useful for any situation you come across

These practices can take all of five minutes to start and can prep your day, where you can work your up to meditating for longer periods. It would beneficial if you mediated before going out the door to work, and also once you sit at your desk to create a positive way to start the day. As I’ve said earlier, the more you practice, the easier this practice will become, thereby being a daily ritual you will look forward to and set a positive tone for your day.

I was amazed at how many contestants on the Miss America pageant, the other night, said that they regularly meditate and how it helped lead them to be pageant-winners to get to the big stage; the new Miss America discussed how her practice of mediation has lead her to have the confidence to pursue her dream; if it worked for her, it can work for you!

If you’d like help with dealing with workplace stress and learn to manage your career, let’s talk; contact us at http://www.cyscoaching.com to get started!



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