Now that the Thanksgiving holiday is behind us, it’s time to look to the future – and I don’t just mean the Christmas holiday. You may not believe this, but this month is a great time to look for a new job or to go for that promotion. This is the time of year when companies are winding down and looking to move full steam ahead come the new year. Isn’t it time that you do the same?
Making a career move can seem scary; we all get into the comforts of knowing how we’re spending our days and bringing in a source of income to live. But if you are feeling frustrated or bored with aspects of your job, or you feel ready to move either to a new industry or to take on a leader role, then I would encourage you to make the decision and make the leap.
If you’re unsure if this is the ‘right time,’ then consider the following:
- Do you hesitate to get out of bed in the morning, or you delay going out the door and go to work?
- Do you find yourself feeling unhappy, dissatisfied, or bored with the work you do?
- Do you find yourself feeling more stress about your job that you are not sleeping well, you find yourself more irritable, or you are having more health issues?
Any of these are signs that you are not finding fulfillment in your job which, if not taken care of, can lead to a decline in your performance (of which you could jeopardize your employment) and your physical/mental health. The fallout can be great if not addressed.
If you are thinking of finding a new job, here are some steps to help you get there:
- Take a hard look at your current role – list all of the tasks and activities you do each day, such as meetings, committees you serve on, your actual job duties, other tasks you take on – either given to you or you assume because others aren’t/can’t. Rate your level of satisfaction/dissatisfaction with each of those: which ones excite you, which use your skills the most, which deplete you. The results can be the basis to know if a new job is in your future.
- Define your ideal job – we all have one in mind so dream big, as your possibilities can be your realities. List the title, the company, the skills and competencies you want to use, the job tasks you desire or that excite you, and include the pay and benefits you desire. I also recommend writing down the traits of the boss you would like to work for and the company culture you want to work in; both of these are critical to your career success.
- Update your resume, cover letter, LinkedIn profile, and any supporting documents you have so you are fully ready to apply and make the case for why you are the best job candidate. If you’ve been writing down your accomplishments and ‘win’s this will be an easy task; if not, then you’ll need to take the time to do so (and then can begin to document them as you move forward). I believe this step also helps to increase your self-esteem when you see all the good work you’ve done and can feel accomplished. Self-confidence is the key during these times.
- Begin the job search – there are so many ways to begin to research and find that ideal job, which can include: company job boards, networking events, job fairs, LinkedIn job app, Facebook’s Social Jobs app, BranchOut, job board sites, past employers, current employment, friends and family, recruiters/headhunters, and getting help from a Career Coach. There are so many ways to find your next role; it does take time and consistency. Having a good job search strategy is the key to putting this all together so you won’t feel the frustration of not knowing what to do or which way to go each day.
If you are frustrated with the job in any way, I encourage you to take advantage of this time of year and jump on the bandwagon. If you don’t, someone else will so make the move today!
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So to continue on my story of the ‘broken car,’ I am now happy to report that I am the proud owner of a brand new one. I decided yesterday to just go ‘look’ – my intention was not to buy anything but, it was Black Friday and there were a lot of good car deals going on. I had my heart set on a particular one but, 6 hours later, after 4 test drives (I know, I’m picky), it was down to two.
Financing worked out but now came the big decisions: fix my car, buy a new one, and which one. After going back and forth, I decided to buy a smaller SUV – the bigger one is too big for a short person and I really like the dashboard of the one I bought (yes, picky). I am a bit sad, though, as I didn’t even drive it off the lot as I drove there.
Today, as many of us do, my buyer’s remorse is starting to kick in: did I get the best deal, could I have gotten them lower, would another dealer have given a better offer, should I have taken the other car? How many times do you regret either making a decision that you question or regretting a decision you didn’t make? I think a majority of us live with these fears and self-doubts when it comes to making a decision. I say it’s because we don’t trust ourselves enough while also fearing the inability to face a consequence that may result.
I am reading a great book by Brian Whetten, Ph. D, called “Yes, Yes, Hell No!” He says that when it comes to making a decision, whether good or bad, that we will move forward which are the yeses but then this turns into the hell no aspect. For example, say you really want to move into a new job; you search and find one, you update your resume with keywords and ensuring your skills shine; you open the computer to apply BUT you don’t. You start questioning the process and all the what-ifs that might occur. You have just done the Yes, Yes – Hell No process.
Whetton (2015) says that there are two types of decisions: dilemmas and dreams; I faced dilemma as I was facing several alternatives, while a dream involves something you want to accomplish. He says that decisions are made up of intuition, reason and the fear, and that when these three align we should move forward. But the key is listening to which voice is raising its head and to respond accordingly. Embracing the fear, or fears, helps them release them while holding onto them only makes them stronger. We all have the answers – we just need to pay attention to them. I recommend this book – I think I’m going back to the beginning and reading again to embrace my new car and all future decisions I make.
Now that Thanksgiving has passed, which I hope was a time spent appreciating the many blessings in your life, we are now heading into the Christmas holidays. Today marks the start of the shopping season, with today being Black Friday and ending with Cyber Monday; stores are going all-out with having huge discounts and specials all meant to bring your business in.
I must admit I have never been a fan of this weekend, mainly as I don’t like fighting crowds nor the traffic. I never understood why people fight over products or lose their manners. However, I’m changing my tune a bit this year. I’m taking a leap and going on the bandwagon and offering my coaching services on special. This is a great time of year to change jobs or move up within your company; it’s also a great time to put together a strategy for how you would like your career to be in 2016.
This is where career coaching can be a necessity; working with someone who is experienced in how to find and land the perfect job, along with all the necessities needed around career transitions, and the accountability needed to get it done, will get you there faster than you can on your own. If you’ve been frustrated with how you career is going or having job stress that you don’t know how to deal with, why not take the leap and invest in yourself to be the best you can be. I’m making a huge leap, which can feel scary – you can do the same. Aren’t you worth it?
Sending out Thanksgiving wishes to you and your family and friends. We can be so grateful for many things that we tend to take for granted, when there are others who are in lack or don’t have. List your gratitudes before you move on in your day so you will feel happier. Make moments count, as you never know when they will come again. Happy Thanksgiving and have a wonderful day!
So last week I wrote how I had major car trouble but looked through the silver lining to see several positives that laid behind looking at expensive car repairs and having to rely on others to get around while the car was in the shop. Today, I am trying hard to find that lining again as they are telling me the car is essentially ‘crap’ – it needs a major repair that is going to cost thousands of dollars. My dilemma is: do I want to sink more money into a car, of which I have no car payments, or do I go buy another car and take on payments again?
The timing also could not be worse: here we are right before Thanksgiving, with family down and the Christmas holiday upon us. This feels like a setback to a setback. Dealing with a double-whammy of sorts elicits a host of feelings – worry, irritability, racing thoughts, etc. We typically place expectations on what we want something to be and when it does not turn out that way, we are filled with all of those feelings and emotions just mentioned.
We think, “If I want this…then it will happen.” This is why we feel so miserable when we suffer a setback in our plans. But, often these disappointments can be blessings in disguise and help us grow in our self-development. We can learn so much about ourselves – our character, our outlook and our strengths – which helps us to deal and move on. They help to strengthen and enhance our capability to handle future setbacks. Here are three ways to deal with setbacks (and setbacks) you may be facing:
1. Take time – when something negative occurs, we must take time to grieve and expel the emotions that arise, such as anger, anxiety or sadness. These are all natural emotions that, if not released, will adversely impact you along the way. Recognize that it can take some time to go through this journey.
2. Go inward – commit to looking inside to your feelings and assessing the situation for what it is; this is not about blame but about looking realistically at the situation for what occurred, why and what your part was in it. This releases you from victimhood, puts you in problem-solving mode, it gets you to accept responsibility and allows you to move on.
3. Refocus – now that you have released any old feelings, it is now time to refocus on what you do want in your life. Ask questions, such as “what do I need to know to deal and move on” and then journal what comes to you (without limitations); set new goals, along with some action steps, to go about achieving them and take one step to action.
Moving through these steps will help you to move and grow through any setback that may occur in your life. Recognizing how you deal and adapting is what enhances your coping skills and strengthens your character. I’m off to explore options, which includes car shopping to see what’s available and manageable, as well as checking other options on getting my car fixed. As uncomfortable as this is, pushing through leads to us coming out on the other side.
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If you want to stand out, get noticed and move up in your career, then start spending time, or be around, those who are where you want to be. It is said that we are defined by the company we keep, so it is important to be aware of exactly who that company is.
While we all want to have good working relationship and to fit in, it may mean distancing from those who exhibit adverse, or sometimes negative behaviors so as not to be aligned as ‘one of those.’ Now this does not mean that you can’t be continue to be friends with Sally or Joe, who may not have good work habits; these are relationships that you have outside of the workplace.
But being around the ‘rainmakers’ lifts you up to their level which increases your performance and your outlook. It deepens your level of involvement in your work so you want to do more and be better. When those above you begin to see your new attitude and outcomes from these new-found actions, it will lead to more opportunities in both challenging work and promotional opportunities.
Here are three action steps you can take to increase your leverage and reach:
- Assess your social circle at work: who is a high – good-low performer and what is your relationship with them; unfortunately, we are seen as being around the company we keep so if you align with Joe, who may be surfing the net, with Sally who tends to gossip, your chances of being seen as one-in-the same is high. Again, this does not mean that you can’t be friends with them but you will want to be aware of when and how you are seen.
- Make a list of your brand and how you want to be perceived, as this will lead you to seek out the people who have those traits and get connected. Look at other high performers or leaders – both within and outside your organization – and see who ‘speaks’ to you, in the sense that you silently say “I want to be just like them.” Look at how they plan their day, how do they present themselves and interact with others, how do they dress and conduct themselves. Doing this will make you stand out, which is when you will get more recognition.
- Go find them; how you align with those you’ve identified does not have to be complicated as it should come naturally (so you don’t come off as a brown-noser) so you are accepted easily. When you are in meetings, sit near that person, or persons, you want to be seen with which will put in you their circle; volunteer for projects or committees which will put you in direct contact with them; greet and acknowledge them – saying hello or good afternoon often leads to more conversation, which is your opportunity to get to know them better; use your networking skills to strike up conversations and begin to learn about others which will then lead to you answering the question of ‘what do you do?” One last suggestion would be to look for mentoring opportunities with them which can boost your profile and your career.
Being recognized on the job is desired by everyone; spending time with those who are will lend much to your credibility and profile. When opportunities arise, you can be on the top of the list if you follow these suggestions, act authentically, and perform at your best.
Ready to get recognized? Contact us today for your complementary Discovery Session to learn how we can help: http://www.cyscoaching.com. Take action and move your career forward!
So you’re going through your career, making strides daily, but then slowly you feel stuck and unsure of the next steps. You wake up daily with thoughts of doing something different, perhaps having a great idea, but hold back on the exact steps to take to get them. Other days you just feel…lost. Do any of these sound familiar? If so, then you are caught in career paralysis; if not dealt with quickly, the paralysis can remain forever.
Before getting into how to deal with it, let me discuss why it occurs or what leads to it. The bottom line is that you are dealing with a fear of some type. Fear can rear its ugly head at any time, as 95% of our thoughts are buried deep down; we push unpleasant thoughts and experiences away but they have this nasty way of coming back – and when you least expect them. Fears can include:
- fear of not being good enough ( the main underlying fear for us all)
- fear of failing
- fear of success
- fear of not having enough money
- fear of not having enough opportunities
- fear of the boss not liking me (or fear of the boss in general)
I could go on and on as fear are limitless since they are individualized to each of us. But fear is not always bad – actually, fear can help us to dig down inside and find the inner strength we all have so we can push past fear and get done what we need to do. When we look at fears that are leading to being ‘stuck’ in your work and are depleting the joy and life out of you, if something is not done it can lead to catastrophic results, such as health or emotional issues or poor performance. Over time, you won’t be able to work, one way or another, as you’ll experience disengagement and join the 69% of people who are (Gallop, 2015), or you won’t be long in the job as your employer no longer needs a poor performer.
Here are three questions to ask yourself to turn move past any paralyzing feelings and find fulfilling work, which can be in your current work (you may need to think of moving on if these don’t work):
- What is holding me back? Name the fear exactly so you can now challenge the thought. That is the first step in becoming clear on the underlying reason you are staying stuck
- Is this absolutely true? Following the principles of The Work, by Byron Katie, challenging our thoughts can show us that nothing we think is an absolute, even though we believe it to be so. Knowing we can’t predict a belief of the end-result can lead us into looking at ways to find solutions to our perceived problems. It can also stop the focus on what is wrong and redirect to what it
- How can I become reengaged in the work I do? Starting small and finding one or two way to find enjoyment in your work tasks can go a long way in pushing you to start using your strengths and skills for your job tasks, as well as ownership and empowerment, all of which leads to feelings of satisfaction and personal happiness. You will then take responsibility of your work – the more you do the more motivated you become and the better your performance
Career paralysis is created in the mind; we begin to feel comfortable feeling stuck as we adapt and adopt coping patterns which become our behaviors. When you begin to make the uncomfortable actions new habits, your overall happiness levels will increase and you will begin to like your job all over again. Here is a last question for you: Do you want to stay where you are (meaning you’ve done nothing to change your circumstances) or do you want to have a job you love and that brings you fulfillment? The choice is yours (and ‘ain’t’ that great)!
If you feel stuck and are in career paralysis, why not get some help to push past the barriers and find joy in your work again. Contact us today at http://www.cyscoaching.com to get started.