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When You Can’t See the Forest for the Trees

Have you ever wanted to move forward in your life but did not and then, later, the answer to move you to that end-result was in front of you all along? I’ll admit that I’ve been there a time or two, but it brought this to light in some work I’ve done recently.

I was working with a young man who was looking to make some job changes, as they were not making enough financially and found themselves struggling. In exploring their options and discovering their calling, they revealed that they really liked working on computers and would like a job in the field but did not know how to go about doing so. Imagine my surprise as we moved on to discover that they actually had completed their AA degree in computer networking and an A+ certification.

What? Here was someone who was struggling with how to proceed in their career while already having viable tools at their disposal. This young man could not see his forest for the trees he had planted; his mindset and outlook were blocking his view. He admitted that he tended to only focus on how he would get started or use his education; this confused state led him to take the first job he found. But, he was no longer willing to stay in this state, thus his coming to me.

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How many have been in the same situation as this young man, frustrated at their current situation, wondering how to proceed, but allowing these doubt and frustrations to keep them down? Truthfully, it’s what keeps those in the personal development field in business. Self-doubt and lack of confidence are poison as they raise fears that can be paralyzing, leading one to stay in the same place and not seeing what could be ahead.

Overcoming our fears is not easy, as our body is meant to search out for threats it detects – doing something new is threatening.  But, we have to question these fears to know if they are a reality we have to deal with. If we face something that threatened us in the past, i.e. getting yelled at, being told a negative comment, failed at something, etc., we don’t know if the same incident will happen, or in the same way yet we live as if it will.

Questioning the source of your fears is the only way to move past them – are they absolutely true, which no one can say with certainty. Being a problem-solver to the situation will also alleviate any doubt and puts your brain into action mode for potential solutions to any issue you face. For this young man, it became for him to explore the varying careers/jobs in the IT field and organizations who are looking for someone with his background. He also was able to focus on connections he could make who could refer him to a potential hirer, as well as places he could contact to volunteer in order to get some experience.

Coming up with a viable plan for his next steps was useful in chopping down any trees that were blocking his view from his future. Our work still will focus on reinforcing positive actions he is taking, as well as continuing to overcome his fears but this young man left with renewed hope and spirit that will take him far.

I saw a great quote today that related to this topic: “If something isn’t working, move. You’re not a tree.” (author, unknown). Your path may covered by obstacles (trees) but you don’t have to stay behind them- go around them, over them, or cut them down. There’s always a way.

If you’re facing obstacles to achieving your goals or desires, let’s talk; contact us at http://www.cyscoaching.com

 

 

Are You Planning to Go it Alone in the New Year?

Now that we are just a few weeks away from the ‘ball drop’ to announce the New Year, what is going to change for you? Do you plan to continue on as things have been or would you like to know the secret to having and doing more? Well, here it is: get help.

I think it’s great that we have free will and can do/be anything we want. But there does come a point when we can’t do things on our own, particularly when it comes to moving past the struggles that have dogged us repeatedly. You say you want a new job but haven’t; you say you want a promotion but haven’t; you say you want to finally start that new business, but haven’t. You may have great ideas and intentions but, somehow, they don’t lead to results. And who holds you accountable to get them done?

This is when it is time to reach out and ask for the help you need. A coach (or consultant) can be that help to get you digging deeper into what you truly want, what has been preventing you from doing so, helping you to set really good, manageable goals, and then provide you the accountability until you reach them. Sometimes it can be tough love when you learn that the coach is not a softie  – you say you want something and they are there to make sure you do. Frankly, that why you hire them.

I think being held accountable to someone is a big factor in really getting to work and working the plan you’ve come up with; I myself  have worked with several coach’s and know how beneficial the process is. If you don’t, then you will stay exactly where you are – do you want to be looking back on your career a year from now and find you are in the same place? As Einstein said: “the definition of insanity is doing the same things over and over but expecting different results. Why not make 2016 your best year yet and partner with an expert who can help you ensure it is.

If you’d like help on moving forward in your career or business, contact us today for a Complementary Discovery Session to get started: http://www.cyscoaching.com

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